{"id":10217,"date":"2024-08-08T12:01:05","date_gmt":"2024-08-08T12:01:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/twistkoala.com\/?p=10217"},"modified":"2024-08-08T12:01:05","modified_gmt":"2024-08-08T12:01:05","slug":"deanne-carson-says-parents-should-ask-permission-before-changing-nappies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/devserver.pw\/twistkoala.com\/deanne-carson-says-parents-should-ask-permission-before-changing-nappies\/","title":{"rendered":"Expert Says Parents Should Ask Babies For Permission Before Changing Their Nappies"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

An author and educator has been forced to defend herself after<\/strong>\u00a0saying<\/strong>\u00a0parents should ask babies for permission before changing their nappies.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S***ality expert Deanne Carson made the controversial comment on an ABC News segment on consent laws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expert said parents should \u2018set up a culture of consent\u2019 as early as possible. An example of this was: \u201c\u2018I\u2019m going to change your nappy now, is that OK?’\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She said although a baby isn\u2019t going to reply to the parent, there are other ways to give consent, explaining: \u201cBut if you leave a space and wait for body language and wait to make eye contact then you\u2019re letting that child know that their response matters.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Carson\u2019s viewpoint has sparked a huge debate on social media.?<\/p>\n\n\n

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The expert\u2019s opinion has sparked a huge debate. Credit: SBS<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

One person writes: \u201cI can remember saying things like, \u2018Time to change the diaper! Or someone has wet pants! Or let\u2019s get a clean diapy on!\u2019 But asking an infant permission? The level of crazy that reaches is actually inconceivable.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Another adds: \u201cReally \u2013 when their nappy needs changing they cry and that\u2019s their way of telling you! What is the world coming to?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen a baby cries that\u2019s because often they are asking to be changed as it\u2019s the only way they can communicate that they are uncomfortable. If you don\u2019t change a child that is neglect,\u201d a third points out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Someone else questions: \u201cWhat if they say no, do we just leave them to get a nappy rash?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, others have defended Carson\u2019s point, with one penning: \u201cI am fully supportive of the idea of asking for consent to change a child\u2019s nappy and giving them time to process the request. Well done for starting a difficult topic of conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A second person comments: \u201cI don\u2019t ask consent to change nappies. But as an early childhood educator responsible for changing the nappies of other people\u2019s children, I do make a point of explaining to each child as I am taking them to the changing room exactly what my intentions are and what will be occurring. Not because the child necessarily has a choice in the matter, but because I value the relationship I have with each child.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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The expert says parents should introduce a \u2018culture of consent\u2019 as early as possible. Credit: Alamy<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Katie Russell, a spokesperson for the non-profit s**ual violence organisation R*** Crisis England and Wales, has defended Carson.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

She tells Newsweek<\/a>: \u201cShe\u2019s simply making the very reasonable case for establishing a \u2018culture of consent\u2019 in households and with children from the youngest possible age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThis is about both getting parents and carers into positive habits of not assuming consent from their children and about teaching children that they have a right to decide what happens to their bodies.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likewise, parenting coach Julie Romanowski says there are situations where parents have insisted their children do something, rather than asked them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAsking a child for a hug rather than insisting on one, is a form of respect for that person \u2013 no matter the age, big or small. It is proper etiquette and the greatest form of respect to their rights to their bodies and life,\u201d she explains, per\u00a0Global News<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Deanne Carson has been forced to speak out and defend her viewpoint. Credit: SBS<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Carson also spoke out and addressed the intense backlash.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expert wrote on the New Matilda<\/a> website that she\u2019s been overwhelmed by the response and the \u2018vile messages\u2019 that keep flooding in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe point of my comment was not to suggest you need a baby\u2019s consent to change a nappy. When it comes to health, hygiene and safety, there are some things that are not negotiable,\u201d she clarified.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe strategy is about modelling active communication between two people in intimate or vulnerable moments from a young age. Showing a child what care in those spaces looks like, creating a family culture where the skills needed to negotiate consent as adults are embedded into everyday interactions.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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